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M-am n\u0103scut \u00eentr-un ora\u0219 mic, plin de oameni cu ego-uri mari. Am fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat\u0103 c\u0103 \u201diart\u0103-m\u0103\u201d \u0219i \u201d\u00eemi pare r\u0103u\u201d se spun \u00een \u0219oapt\u0103 \u0219i o singur\u0103 dat\u0103, pentru a nu p\u0103rea slab. De mic\u0103 am fost \u00eempotriva curentului, a\u0219a c\u0103, pentru mine, cuvintele astea au reprezentat \u00eentotdeauna o poart\u0103 c\u0103tre \u00eemp\u0103care, comunicare, armonie. A\u0219a c\u0103 le-am oferit cu generozitate, uneori chiar \u0219i c\u00e2nd nu \u00ee\u0219i aveau rostul, \u0219i implicit, le-am c\u0103utat pe orice buze, \u00een orice circumstan\u021be.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Cred \u00een arta iert\u0103rii. Dar nu cred \u00een arta iert\u0103rii la scar\u0103 larg\u0103, cea de suprafa\u021b\u0103, cea de dragul unei culturi care \u00eendeamn\u0103 la a\u0219a ceva.\u00a0Cred c\u0103, pentru a ne re\u00eentregi \u00een urma unui eveniment care ne-a r\u0103nit, e important s\u0103 iert\u0103m fapta care ne-a r\u0103nit, persoana care a f\u0103cut-o, dar nu \u00eenainte de a ne ierta pe noi.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Cred \u00een iertarea aia care vine cu bagaje. Iertarea aia care ne umple casa inimii de r\u0103m\u0103\u0219i\u021be, noroi \u0219i s\u00e2nge, de ajungem s\u0103 facem cur\u0103\u021benie ani \u00eentregi. E un \u00eentreg proces pe care e nevoie s\u0103 ni-l asum\u0103m, asta dac\u0103 vrem s\u0103 mergem mai departe f\u0103r\u0103 a c\u0103ra dup\u0103 noi ni\u0219te resturi putrezite care doar ocup\u0103 spa\u021biu pre\u021bios.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Dar ce e iertarea, de fapt? Pentru mine, iertarea e rezultatul unei cur\u0103\u021benii generale, ca alea de dinainte de S\u0103rb\u0103tori, \u00een care te bagi cu totul prin cele mai ascunse cotloane \u0219i uneori \u0219tergi de dou\u0103 ori \u00een acela\u0219i loc, doar ca s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 nu \u021bi-a sc\u0103pat nimic – dac\u0103 sunte\u021bi n\u0103scu\u021bi \u00een ’80-’90, \u0219ti\u021bi despre ce vorbesc. Iertarea \u00eenseamn\u0103 foraj, extrac\u021bie, dezgolire, disec\u021bie, analiz\u0103, compara\u021bii, calcule matematice, socoteli emo\u021bionale, negare, procrastinare, vinov\u0103\u021bie, furie, fric\u0103, triste\u021be, resemnare, acceptare, vindecare. \u00cen urma vindec\u0103rii apare \u0219i iertarea. La mine cam a\u0219a func\u021bioneaz\u0103.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Treaba asta cu iertarea e un job full-time. Te treze\u0219ti a doua zi \u0219i continui de unde ai r\u0103mas. Din c\u00e2nd \u00een c\u00e2nd mai gre\u0219e\u0219ti calculele \u0219i e\u0219ti nevoit s\u0103 o iei de la cap\u0103t. Dar fiecare clip\u0103 \u00een care alegi s\u0103 continui drumul \u00eentr-acolo, este un succes mic care se adun\u0103 c\u00e2nd tragi linie, la final.<\/p>\n
Dar ce nu e iertarea? Iertarea nu e o singur\u0103 emo\u021bie, nu e o singur\u0103 ac\u021biune. Nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eenchizi ochii la ce \u021bi s-a f\u0103cut, sau s\u0103 minimizezi experien\u021bele prin care ai fost nevoit s\u0103 treci. Iertarea nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 cau\u021bi scuze celor care te-au r\u0103nit \u0219i s\u0103 a\u0219tep\u021bi s\u0103 vin\u0103 karma s\u0103 fac\u0103 treaba murdar\u0103. Iertarea nu e, \u00eens\u0103, nici c\u0103utarea unor vinova\u021bi, nici ar\u0103tatul cu degetul, nici r\u0103zbunare. S\u0103 ier\u021bi \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 ajungi s\u0103 \u00een\u021belegi contextul holistic al experien\u021bei respective \u0219i s\u0103-\u021bi fie totul at\u00e2t de clar, \u00eenc\u00e2t data viitoare vei \u0219ti mai bine: s\u0103 ai mai mult\u0103 grij\u0103 de tine, s\u0103 \u0219tii ce meri\u021bi, s\u0103 pui limite s\u0103n\u0103toase, s\u0103 identifici oamenii toxici \u0219i s\u0103 te \u00eendep\u0103rtezi de ei cu compasiune at\u00e2t pentru ei, c\u00e2t \u0219i pentru tine.<\/p>\n
De partea cealalt\u0103 a iert\u0103rii e lini\u0219te. De partea cealalt\u0103 a iert\u0103rii e\u0219ti tu, o versiune mai evoluat\u0103, mai \u00een\u021beleapt\u0103, mai s\u0103n\u0103toas\u0103 emo\u021bional. Asta dac\u0103 e\u0219ti dispus s\u0103 mergi p\u00e2n\u0103 la cap\u0103t cu un proces interior din care vei ie\u0219i \u0219ifonat, dar re\u00eentregit.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00a0 M-am n\u0103scut \u00eentr-un ora\u0219 mic, plin de oameni cu ego-uri mari. Am fost \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat\u0103 c\u0103 \u201diart\u0103-m\u0103\u201d \u0219i \u201d\u00eemi pare r\u0103u\u201d se spun \u00een \u0219oapt\u0103 \u0219i o singur\u0103 dat\u0103, pentru a nu p\u0103rea slab. De mic\u0103 am fost \u00eempotriva curentului, a\u0219a c\u0103, pentru mine, cuvintele astea au reprezentat \u00eentotdeauna o poart\u0103 c\u0103tre \u00eemp\u0103care, comunicare, armonie….<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":185,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-183","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-confessions"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/11\/The-Art-of-Forgiveness.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/183","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=183"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/183\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":804,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/183\/revisions\/804"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/185"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=183"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=183"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eusuntdelia.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=183"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}